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These PagesAll of these historical pages are available to all who wish to read them. Many of these pages refer to my own Quest. It was this site, these pages and Efficient Love - The Good-Man Methodology that helped me find my own, perfect for me, Heroine. My Quest has been totally, successfully accomplished - and Janet and I are sharing a glorious path of our own Happily Here & Now on our way to our shared version of Happily Ever After. Although my Quest was wonderfully successful and is now over, I have left many of these pages that refer to my own search unchanged so that readers can better understand how I used The Method. Hence, many pages purposely have not been updated to show my success! My most sincere hope is that this old site will help give you insights on how best to EFFICIENTLY find your own Hero or Heroine! EfficientLove.comTo find out more, also check out www.EfficientLove.com for updates. Paths & Trails
The Main Paths Below are the three main paths through my Domain. You can always look here on all the pages to change to another main path at any time. Your Quest Click on the path below to find ways for you to better define the Hero or Heroine you seek.
Writings Click on the path below if you would like to read my fiction and non-fiction.
My Quest Click on the path below if you want to learn all about me and see my own wish lists for the Heroine I seek for me. Caution: this is a long and hard trail intended only for those few brave souls who might, just maybe, be my Heroine.
What's New Very Major Update: VERY HAPPILY
MARRIED New Page: Dear Dashing are periodic answers to emails I receive about how to better apply The Good-Man Methodology to the reader's own relationship issues. New Page: Relationship Foreplay which will give you 5 dates of info on a prospective lover in only 5 minutes! New page just added to share some of the the spectacular, mesmerizing, kaleidoscopic sunsets that slowly parade out at sea each evening off my balcony. Click the picture to see some of the whispering quiet reminders of the power of God. New pages just added for those who want Instant Chemistry first and for those who think I have too much Time on My Hands! New page: Strictly for friends and family on my recent relocation to a new paradise. Email me for the map to this hidden trail.
Also, a new page, Soulmate Math on how each picky trait you want impacts your number of possible Heroes or Heroines. Also, several new Dragon pages have just been added. The first 8 of them have been so popular, I've added ten more Sneaky Relationship Dragons to the list. General Updates Continue This Domain is undergoing it first major renovation in four years. Some main trails and side paths are undergoing brand new construction while others are simple cosmetic repairs. Those paths undergoing major new construction may still be temporarily closed. This Domain started, once upon a time, as a single page and a single picture with my own Quest as its sole goal. The site has grown haphazardly to over 350 separate web pages and some readers are getting lost in the bushes. These new pages will have much better navigation with much better organization of thought and purpose - with it primary goal of helping others find their own Hero or Heroine. Please stay tuned and. as always, comments and suggestion are welcome. Also, please let me know of broken links, typos, inconsistent formatting or anything that seems confusing.
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Heroine Found - No Maybe About It
Update: This
page was written by me and Janet right before and right after we were married.
Once upon a time...almost a dozen years ago, I began a Quest to find my Heroine. This page is dedicated to Janet...the woman I found...the Heroine who married me on October 7, 2005.
. My Quest was to find the one who would match all that I sought. On all three
lists. Someone who was
looking for someone like me. Someone who really is, in every way, ALL of the
following:
During that dozen-year Quest, I met many wonderful women, many of whom remain as dear, lifelong friends who will be loved forever. But my Quest continued, still seeking the perfect combination of all those listed traits...prompting me to even develop and publish, "The Good-Man Methodology for Efficient Love" and create this massive web site that has 30,000 to 40,000 visitors every month. JanetFinally, though, I have met one who is The One - and the one who I plan on spending the rest of my life with...the one and only one, during those dozen years, who I asked to marry me.
Since thousands of readers have so diligently followed my dozen-year Quest with so much interest, I've dedicated this page to Janet as a way of sharing some of why she is the One. (Since so many of you have been asking for even more details, I've included more nuances than I normally would have described.) Finding Janet and being blessed with her becoming my wife is the successful culmination of all the effort and all the time spent on my Quest during the past dozen years. If some of this seems "over the top" it is just that I think she is the most fantastic woman I have ever met! Janet and I have been together virtually non-stop for the past two plus years. She has, as her innate nature, all the traits I had asked for above, plus so much more. Janet lived in Tampa about 20 miles from me, is now 43 and has two outstanding,
incredibly bright kids: Susie, 19, who successfully conquered New York
City and is
half way through her second year at NYU under a full four-year scholarship in
Environmental Law...and Greg, almost 18, who is a black belt and cross-country runner
senior and who will graduate
in May as
Valedictorian of his 500 person high school class with the highest GPA ever in the entire
Tampa Bay area. Greg was awarded both a full four-year scholarship to Cornell and the
Barnes Scholarship and is on his way to becoming President of the United
States.
Obviously, Janet has done an absolutely amazing job - as both a mother and being essentially the sole participating parent in their lives since their birth. Janet also served as their official teacher when she home-schooled both kids for a total of four years of each of their eight year elementary school education. Their academic successes and credentials are true testaments of how great a job she did. She has really excelled as a loving, dedicated Super Mom in EVERY sense of the term by raising Susie and Greg the way she has...and teaching them the important lessons of life, achievement and values. Janet and I met as a result of this very website. Before we even met, she had read virtually all 350 web pages I have on this massive, rambling Domain. As a result, she already knew most everything about me and apparently very much liked what she read. When we did finally meet, it was the kind of knock-your-socks-and-thigh-highs-off kind of amazing, mutual chemistry we both had always wanted. During the past 2 years that mutual chemistry has only grown even stronger for us both. Jan is a wonderful, incredible woman...THE most wonderful, loving, giving-from-the-heart, woman I have ever met...and our relationship is fun and pleasurable and full of total contentment on every level. Between our great chemistry and the Methodology, the depth of our relationship accelerated and we very quickly moved from mutual Infatuation to genuine Love that will last a lifetime for us both. Neither of us is perfect, of course...but we are perfect for each other. We both share many interests beyond the romantic and our overwhelming mutual chemistry. These include the mountains, nature, hiking, biking, sailing and especially photography. But beyond all of that, we share a common sense of our ideal DIDO, day in day out, lives. Our wonderful compatibility seems all encompassing and without limits...from constant playfulness to being hopeless romantics with non-stop affection and intimacy. Even the mundane chores and errands of life are a pleasure, together. A few weeks after we met, when I asked Janet to describe the typical day in her life Five Years into the future, I was stunned that she described almost exactly what I had written for myself and hidden on a secret web page here on this Domain. (If you care to read what I had written several years ago, click Robert's Five Year from Today. Until right now, less than two dozen folks have ever been given access to this private page.) Jan was equally amazed at how close our shared vision of the future was....and it is just one of so many things we have in common. Almost word for word, THAT is what Janet and I plan on sharing as our lifestyle...together. Janet's Perspective & Comments"From our first date on March 11, 2004, our love started growing almost from
the moment we met. Since I had already read his 350-plus web pages and his
book on relationships and compared our three lists before we even met, I felt I had known Robert all my life. Our very
romantic first date was almost
exactly the way he "During our first date, I remember us first dancing to Joe Cocker's, 'You Are So Beautiful' - which has become OUR song. Robert really IS so beautiful to me! In so many ways. Besides those irresistible, baby blue eyes, his deep sexy mesmerizing voice that still melts me at the core and that brilliant, rocket-scientist mind of his that goes 1,000 MPH, he has THE most wonderful, giving heart of anyone I have ever known...and it shows in almost everything he does. He has always proven himself in every way to be totally genuine and honest and trustworthy about everything he had described in those 350 web pages - and everything he has ever told me or written me.
"I know with all my heart that Robert is undoubtedly a divine blessing and gift sent directly to me from God...and we both thank God every day for all the happiness we share in our relationship. Robert has a very special, tender way of ALWAYS making me feel that I am totally loved and that I am the most feminine, cherished and adored woman on Earth. "I didn't tell Robert until after he asked - but I have known that I wanted to marry him almost since I began falling in love with him...which was pretty much from the moment we met. I knew when I read Robert's pages that I would marry him or that I would probably end up living alone for the rest of my life. "I felt I knew exactly what I needed to be happy and it was crystal clear
from his writings that Robert had ALL the attributes I valued. I had
received other marriage proposals in the past few years...some from those who
barely knew me...but there had been none of them that I had even considered for
more than five minutes. I had decided, even before I met Robert, that I
wanted someone who possessed only the very best of hearts, someone who would
love me for who I really am, someone who would love me regardless of how I
looked and no matter how old I got, someone who had the genuine and important
attributes I required, someone who I could spend a lifetime loving in return.
I had decided long ago that if I could not find someone who matched all of that,
I would rather be alone for the rest of my life. I was determined never,
ever to settle for less, ever again. "In Robert's pages, I found the person who I had been seeking all my life. All of what his words said...and even all that was silently said between all of those lines...showed me everything about this man that I wanted to know...and all those pages answered almost every question I had. It was all right there waiting for me to read and discover. Amazingly, even with my initial doubts, the more I read...the more I found him to be not just some of what I sought...but he was everything. Even more amazing, Robert is, in fact, exactly ALL of what he wrote. Every word and every implication. "With Robert, I found the man who really does have THE very best of hearts,
someone who values and cherishes me for all that I am, even with all my
imperfections and
idiosyncrasies... someone who I KNOW will love me and find the real me
beautiful...even when I am 100
"We have already shared so much life, and so many incredible times, in the past two years.... including spending at least 80% of all those days and nights together, surviving and even enjoying the "excitement" of at least a half-dozen hurricanes, sharing wonderful times with all of our kids, especially including a household full of love during past holiday seasons...and our two, month-long honeymoons during the last two Octobers in the Smokies. "One thing that continues to constantly amaze me is Robert's energy level and intensity. I may be 14 years younger than Robert...but, often, I can barely keep up - and I usually swear that he is really 14 years younger than me! It's a close race but he usually wins by a "nose." He tells me that it will probably all even out in another couple of decades - but that is the ONLY thing about our relationship that I doubt! "In spite of sharing some of life's inevitable challenges and constraints, and what Robert calls 'dragons', our love continues to grow even stronger and more complete in every way - with my heart actually singing from the joy and fun and spectacular, wonderful Day In and Day Out that we share. "Our life together is truly what Robert calls "Happily Here & Now" and I want to spend every day
and night of the rest of my life, with Robert as my husband, on our way to Happily
Ever After together!" The WeddingsYes. Plural. After we checked with everyone's schedules - we ran off and eloped on October 7, 2005 in one of our most favorite spots - the Smokies - during our third, month-long honeymoon there. We spent all of October there last year hiking and otherwise frolicking in the fall foliage. We both love the area so much that we successfully bought a place on a mountaintop there....fortunately closing in time for our wedding and honeymoon. As you can probably tell from some of the photos here, the Smokies is a very special place for us. It is only a coincidence that Gatlinburg is the second most popular place in the entire country to be married! We were married, as planned, during a small, romantic ceremony with only my sister and her family attending - doing all we could to maximize the romance and to absolutely minimize any and all of the usual wedding falderal. During the summer before we were married, we successfully factored in time for a full two week trip there at the end of June before Adam (who, with his band, recorded their second CD) arrived for his summer trip here...so, that was our second honeymoon in the Smokies. The vacation together was wonderful and busy as we picked out THE most special place for our wedding ceremony...along with some real estate shopping, hiking, nature photography and creating other additions for our Good-Photo site (see below). You can probably tell from this page exactly what I find to be THE most fabulous scenic beauty. With Adam in England, Susie in New York and Greg in Tampa, the logistics of having them all rendezvous in the Smokies in the middle of October was just too difficult - with both guys in their senior year and Susie starting her sophomore year at NYU.
So, to try and make sure that they were part of our wedding, we did it again...barefoot...on the beach here on Sand Key during the afternoon on New Year's Eve. Unfortunately, Adam was in England for the holidays so he could not be my best man, but Greg gave his Mom away and Susie was the Maid of Honor. Other, local, friends also attended. The above photo is our view from our place on Sand Key and the photo below was taken after our New Year's Eve ocean-front ceremony. |
I asked...she said yes...and this
past October we were married in a
small chapel wedding in
one of our most favorite spots on Earth....the Smoky Mountains.
had predicted on his
"We are so wonderfully
connected and totally compatible on every level...so much so that we both intuitively understand and instinctively
respond to every murmur and sigh...every glance...every subtle movement...even
from across the room or the other side of the beach. All of this is so awesome and
so amazing to me...and it has
been like that since we first met.
years old...AND he is someone with ALL the
attributes I value. All of that - and we both share the most amazing
mutual chemistry I have ever felt in my life.
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Already on our path...to Happily Ever After...together.
The Book
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Efficient Love?
The concept of Efficient Love is not the oxymora it first appears.
Doesn't it make incredible sense to invest a few hours to FULLY define ALL of your wants, wishes and needs that would describe your ideal lover?
By efficiently identifying the general traits, characteristics, sexual issues and day-in day-out needs you find important, you can very quickly recognize if a prospective lover is a genuine long-term match BEFORE the chemistry takes over and leads you into yet another dead-end relationship and through another Cycle of the Nine Stages of Love.
Do you really want to watch the sun set on yet another day without sharing YOUR path of Happily Here & Now with someone who wants YOUR same Happily Ever After?
Doesn't it make more sense for you to find YOUR ideal Hero or Heroine as quickly and efficiently as possible? Wouldn't you rather share as many glorious days and nights of wonderful inefficiencies possible with your ideal lover, as quickly as possible?
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Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love
Dating, love,
relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid
loneliness,being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance
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Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love
Dating, love,
relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid loneliness,
being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance
What method do you use in your life for dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance?
Do you seek Happily Ever After in a relationship?
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